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Desperately Seeking   1 comment

I have been “putting myself out there” the last two weeks.  Does anyone still use that phrase?  Almost every day, I have been sending at least one and sometimes up to three emails to men whose profiles I like on the two dating web sites I’m part of.  Bold.  Nervy even.  Desperate?

I read a post recently by a Christian man on a bulletin board on one of the web sites that encouraged those who really did want to get married — to reach out more.  To be a bit more assertive in their search and not just sit behind their keyboards, looking and waiting.  So, with daily prayer and seeking, that is what I have been doing.  And you know, aside from the silence from my emails and a few rejections…….. it hasn’t been a bad experience.  I feel positive that I am taking action.  The amount of prayer I’ve been doing around the dating/finding a husband thing has increased, and I feel that God has been blessing my search.  Not with, you know, an actual husband yet — but blessing nevertheless.

I was reminded this morning that the last three semi-serious relationships I was in all started around the Fourth of July. Which is coming in just over a month.  Hmmm…. makes a girl wonder if there is perhaps a desperate man out there, seeking for his other half.  Stay tuned.

Looking…. and discerning   1 comment

This is me. Searching profiles on a free dating web site… which shall remain nameless. 

Freakin’ A this is hard!!!!  I didn’t think I was very picky, until I started exploring this web site. It has several features that I really like.  Which I won’t share since it will give the site away.  But there are lots and lots of men near me that are in my age group on this site.  Great, right?  AND there are also a lot of Christian men, who are near me, in my age group, on this site.  Even better, right?

You might think so, but nnnnooooooooooo!!  99% of the men who I have seen that live near me (with 200 miles), are Christian (I can’t tell you how I know, but you can tell from the site) and who are in my age group are ——– are you ready? ——- are looking for ladies in their 30’s. Sometimes 40’s.  I’m not making that up or exaggerating.  AAAGGGGGG!!!!!!!  Why, why, WHY is it so hard to find someone?  I look at these profiles, trying to discern if he is telling the truth, if he is making things up or embellishing.  Trying to figure out if I should gather the shreds of my courage and contact him.

And I have reached out to more than a half-dozen of those men who has listed their age range as being outside mine.  Know how many replies I got back?  Two.  Both said thanks very much and good luck on my search, or something like that.  Polite. Acknowledging my note to them.  Being a gentleman.  The rest: nada.  How rude is THAT? 

So I continue slogging through the profiles.  Screwing my eye up.  Looking at it one way.  Then the other.  Weighing.  Trying to ….. figure it out.  Sigh.

What’s between friends and boyfriend?   3 comments

One of my online friendships is moving into something more.  But since he lives in Ohio there is no immediate chance of us meeting soon.  So…… what comes after friends and before boyfriend?

Our relationship is still moving v-e-r-y   s–l–o–w–l–y….. but it is moving forward.  Until I meet him in person I can’t decide if he is someone I would consider spending the rest of my life with, and that I’d like to have for a boyfriend first.  So, until or unless we meet in person?  I guess he will just remain a friend.  Good friend.  Good close friend.  Very good friend. 

Hmmmm…. I think I figured it out.

Posted March 3, 2011 by Maureen in Being Single

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Snails go Faster   4 comments

So right now I am in three long-distance online relationships.  Actually, the word “relationship” is to be used loosely here to describe what is going on.  I basically have three men I know who I am friendly with. There is no romance with any of them.  Nothing hot and heavy.  Nothing explicit (which is quite fine with me), nothing concrete (as in: “Reserve that chapel, honey!  I want to marry you on the 14th!”) 

All three men are different, I met them at different times, my level of friendship is different with each one, and they all live in different states.  Also, there is no possibility that in the near future (i.e. within a month.  Or even two) we will actually see each other face to face.  Zero to slim chance we will be in the same zip code/area code/time zone./occupy the same space-time continuum. 

SHEESH!  Snails move faster than these ‘relationships’ I’m in!

Posted February 21, 2011 by Maureen in Being Single, Musings

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