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The LIST   2 comments

When you were younger, did you have a “LIST” of what qualities your future mate would have?  I did.  What was on your list?

I remember having a long list.  They had to have at least an interest (better yet – active interest) in a variety of things I was interested in.  They had to be of a certain height and be employed in a job that would provide for us in the event I would stay home.  They had to like and want kids, they had to have a family that lived nearby, and they had to like but not be fanatics about football.  I can’t really remember everything on the list, but it went something like that.

Do you still have it?  Your “LIST”?  How has it changed over the years?  IF it has changed, that is. 

As I got older I realized that I got along with a wide variety of people (and they with me), and those people did not have many of the qualities that were on my “LIST”.  So, I thought, why is my list so long?  And that got me thinking – what were the most important things, to me?  What were the non compromisers, the got to haves, the bottom line?

I read an article recently that the online dating world is currently in a trend where your credit score is one of the things you are expected to reveal.  Whether in your profile, or after meeting someone.  There is even a dating web site dedicated to matching people with their credit scores.

Now in my opinion accepting or rejecting someone just on their credit score is too narrow a criterion to evaluate whether someone would be a good life mate for me.  If you think about it, there are a lot of reasons why someone might have a low credit score, that really have nothing to do with their core character or values.  For instance, I know more than person who went through years of struggle and credit problems because their divorced spouse had run up charges on multiple credit cards, or defaulted on a business, right before the divorce.  A credit score can be an indicator of the kind of person someone is, to be sure.  But I don’t think it is the only, nor even the final criteria.

So – do you have a “LIST”?  What is on it?  Since being in a committed dating relationship the past year and a half, I truly don’t remember what used to be on my “LIST”.

Posted January 23, 2013 by Maureen in Being Single, Randomness

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