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Lessons Learned as a Newlywed   Leave a comment

My husband and I had been together 3 ½ years before we got married.  I thought I knew him very well.  We had experienced a lot together in those years – good and bad.  Our relationship had gone through all kinds of changes, and weathered storms.  I knew that I knew that I knew I wanted to marry this man and be his wife the rest of our lives.  I was certain I knew him well.

And yet – after we were married I found out some things I had not known about him.

I had no idea he would make that particular sound when a heavy piece of glass got accidentally dropped on his foot.

I had no idea he was good at putting together things like a 4-shelf stand from Ikea.  Make that anything from Ikea.  He has way more patience than I in doing that stuff – and he follows the directions!

I didn’t know he got distracted so easily while unpacking.  He does not work, so he is home most of the day every day, and when I come home I am invariably faced with pieces of projects in the dining room, living room, and library.  Sometimes also down the hall.

I didn’t know he wouldn’t mind (heck – he asked me!) me rearranging his whole dresser.  Refolding clothes, reorganizing, sorting.

I didn’t know he would be so protective of me enjoying at least part of the weekend.  He actively seeks to get me to relax and not unpack or search for things or clean or organize or shop.  He wants me to be able to enjoy the weekend, after working all week.

The lessons I’ve learned from these revelations are: You are never too old to learn something new.  And – people can still surprise and even delight you even after you know them well.

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Posted April 13, 2015 by Maureen in Musings

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