Adult Children   Leave a comment

I’m not going to talk about those wonderful adults who retain the best of child-like qualities.  A sense of wonder.  A sense of fun.  Trusting.  Giving.  Loving.

No, what is on my mind are those adults who, into their 40’s, 50’s and beyond, still act as if they are in, oh, maybe the 8th grade.  They are still using the same coping and communication skills they used when they were 13.  It doesn’t work so well for them now that they are 42, as you can imagine.  But it is all they know, so they are stickin’ with it. 

They flounce.  They pout.  They get red in the face.  They deflect and minimize when arguing.  They don’t take personal responsibility.  They do things like gossip behind someone’s back. I had someone just recently literally turn her back on me as I was sitting at a table of people, effectively blocking me from the conversation. 

Now, a 13-year-old I know how to deal with.  I know how to face those behaviors and work with them.  A 49-year-old?  Um….. not so much.  At this point, honey, you really should have figured it out for yourself.  And if you are STILL doing this behavior at your age, when the rest of us have matured and moved on to more adult ways to communicate and express our feelings…… then I don’t know what to say to you. 

Build a bridge and get over it.  Pay attention and change your behavior.  Catch a ride on the clue bus.  Or how about: G-r-o-w   U–P!!!!!

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Posted December 3, 2010 by Maureen in Musings

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